There is a fine line between being a knocker and being a pusher. (Outwardly anyway)
Let me explain:
Pushers are “self-motivated.”
Meaning, what they seek pushes themselves to the top. Something that brings about personal success or fulfillment; sometimes AT the expense of someone else’s failure or discomfort. Pushers can appear benevolent but that benevolence is self-glory.
Pushers can be insecure, easily offended and desperate. They can be labeled as ambitious, driven, tenacious, passionate and of course “on fire.”
Before you start thinking of other people you “know” this applies to, let me drop a humility bomb:
Knockers and pushers are identified by MOTIVE- and we don’t get the weighty task of knowing someone else’s motive. Hardly ever.
We are bad judges of the WHY of what someone else is doing or not doing.
Knockers and pushers come in all shapes, sizes, personality types and giftings.
Some “pushers” are outwardly quiet, passive, reserved and look like angels who would never “do” anything bad. On the flip-side some knockers are loud, assertive, outgoing and look like….well, not angels.
So, what is a knocker?
I’m glad you asked!
Let me share a story with you…from my Amplified Bible (Luke 11: 5-9)
And He (Jesus) said to them, “Which one of you who has a friend will go to him at midnight and will say to him, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, for a friend of mine who is on a journey has just come, and I have nothing to put before him,’ and he from within will answer, Do not disturb me; the door is NOW CLOSED, and my children are with me in bed; and I cannot get up and supply you with anything.”
I tell you, although he will not get up and supply him anything because he is his friend, yet because of his friend’s shameless persistence and insistence he will get up and give him as much as he needs. So I say to you, “Ask and keep on asking and it shall be given to you, seek and keep on seeking and you shall find; knock and keep on knocking and the door shall be opened to you.”
Knockers are “other-motivated,” as this man who was seeking bread for a friend. (This does not mean we neglect self-care, but when we know our needs are taken care of, we “fight” for the needs of others.)
Knockers have shameless persistence and insistence because their KNOCKING is on the behalf of the needy, the poor, the blind, the weary, the broken, the hungry, the _________________. Fill in the blank.
Knockers can be easily misunderstood. And understandably so….
Because knockers are motivated by the needs of others, they don’t stop knocking when the door doesn’t easily open. Nope, they will knock until their knuckles bleed and the whole world mocks them. And they really don’t give a darn. They shamelessly keep knocking…
keep insisting that…
the DOOR OPENS.
Knockers don’t kick doors down, take off the hinges or burn them down.
They simply refuse to stop knocking.
Why do knockers keep knocking when they could do one of the above and make the door open?
Because knockers have a deep faith that God’s timing is divine and best even when they don’t understand.
Knockers don’t need an entourage, bodyguards, approval of man, easy answers, or the limelight.
They are not interested in our opinions or judgements.
They want just ONE THING!
The love of God to collide with a needy soul.
Needy souls who are unaware they can knock too.
Needy souls who God is preparing to receive all He has for them.
Needy souls who might have once been pushers and walked through doors that were not meant to be open at that time.
Needy souls who have grown weary, afraid and sometimes utterly offended.
Before we are too hard on pushers, let’s get real.
Are there any brave souls who can confess they have at least been a “pusher” even in the slightest bit?
Anyone burn a door down? Take the hinges off?
Anyone care to confess they weren’t even privy to being a “pusher” because the world told them “Keep on pushing!”
The truth is, the only reason pushers are pushers is because they are not yet convinced their own needs have been met.
You are loved with an everlasting love.
You are never alone.
You will never be forsaken.
You will be clothed and fed even as the birds are.
You are rejoiced over.
You are accepted. Set-apart. Adored.
Knockers have a deep trust and faith that their needs have already been met.
Yet, they are not content with just their needs being met.
They are not content with just having their oxygen mask on.
Sometimes knockers may lose sleep knocking on Heaven’s door. And they don’t need anyone to see it or know it.
I am a recovering pusher. I lost count how many times I have been described as passionate, driven, on fire….etc. And though God has not changed my personality, He’s changed my heart. I no longer impress myself with my “abilities” to get things accomplished. I no longer find my identity in ministry, what others think of me or even what I think of myself. And if I am tempted to do so, I’ve prayed for friends who will remind me the truth of the gospel:
“Everything you need, you have already been given in Christ Jesus.”
Do you think it’s odd we would need to be reminded of these things?
I use to think that. But then again, I use to think I had a lot of things figured out.
Reading through scripture we see our need to be reminded of truth is not a strange thing.
Here’s what Paul says about it in 2 Peter 1:12,13 (Message Bible)
“Because the stakes are so high, even though you’re up-to-date on all this truth and practice it inside and out, I’m not going to let up for a minute in calling you to attention before it. This is the post to which I’ve been assigned—keeping you alert with frequent reminders—and I’m sticking to it as long as I live.”
I don’t know if you are a knocker, pusher or go back and forth but what I do know is knocking is more productive than pushing. Pushing might get more immediate attention but knocking gets long-term results that benefit the needs of others.
Knocking might require more patience, more faith, more self-control and more discernment but when your cause is something bigger than you, those realities come. And when the door finally opens, there is no need to fix damaged doors but merely receive what you have been asking for.
Keep knocking friends! Knock until the door opens.